Embracing Sacred Sexuality -- 5 Things You Can Start Doing Right Now

Peace fam,

Do you have time to embrace your sacred sexuality? The answer is always yes. Oftentimes, we think we have to go the time-consuming and expensive route—book a massage, hire a sex therapist, or bathe ourselves in sacred waters.

I’m here to tell you that the sacred is already within you, ready to come out. Below, you will find a few simple practices you can do right now to awaken your sacred sexuality. Doing these practices will help you calm your nervous system, tap into your divine feminine, open your creative energy channel, improve your confidence, help you embrace pleasure, and more.

What do I mean when I say sacred sexuality?

It’s about recognizing that our sexual expression, feelings, and behavior come from a sacred source, not just our physical body. The body is simply a container that holds what our spirit, our ancestors, and all women have always known. When you embrace your sacred sexuality, it shifts from a physical thing that we do, like a chore, into a part of your sacred self. It’s not just about sex. It’s about pleasure, transformation, wellness, and wholeness.

5 Things You Can Start Doing Right Now

EXHALE: How many times have you been told to take a deep breath? You probably sucked in as much oxygen as you could, filling your lungs to the brim. Now, how much intention did you put into releasing? When you take a deep breath, the exhale is just as important as the inhale. Orgasm is all about the exhale, the sensation of release—how we push down and let go. It’s the way we surrender and open. Doing breathwork that honors your exhale is an easy way to honor your sacred sexuality.

Many of us have heard of box breathing (4 count in, 4 count hold, 4 count out…). But have you tried 4-7-8 breathing? In this practice, you inhale for a count of 4, hold for a count of 7, and exhale for a count of 8. It gives you ample time to let the air circulate through your being, cleansing and restoring your body before pushing out the air with a full, beautiful exhale. Try it out! This breathing exercise is typically done in cycles of 3.

Reverse Kegels: A lot of the rhetoric around the vagina is focused on keeping it tight. Fun fact—the vagina is designed to be open. It is crucial that we spend just as much time pushing out as we do tightening.

• Get into a comfortable position
  Start seated, with your feet grounded and your body relaxed. This makes it easier to feel into your pelvic floor.

• Connect to your pelvic muscles
  Gently engage your pelvic floor (like you’re stopping urine) once, just to identify the muscles—then fully release.

• Breathe deeply into your belly
  Inhale through your nose, letting your belly expand. Think of your breath dropping down into your pelvis.

• Soften and lengthen on the exhale
  As you exhale, relax your pelvic floor. Imagine gently releasing or “dropping” the muscles—like you’re beginning to urinate or have a bowel movement (without straining).

• Repeat with intention
  Move slowly through 6–10 breaths, focusing on relaxation and lengthening with each exhale. Keep the effort gentle—this is about release, not force.

Stay hydrated: Lubrication is about more than sex. Keeping your body hydrated keeps your body healthy, especially your yoni. Drinking ample water, fresh fruit juice, and herbal tea all support having a healthy yoni. Grab some water, take a sip. Feel the water going down your throat, traveling to your belly. Exhale, embrace the pleasure of hydration.

Want to add some extra hydration to your yoni? Try hibiscus tea. Hibiscus naturally regulates blood pressure, is rich in antioxidants, reduces inflammation, and helps with menstrual cramps. Plus, it is super hydrating! Hibiscus tea needs to steep in hot water for at least 10 minutes—but the longer you let it steep, the more tart the flavor and the deeper the beautiful red color becomes.

Define your vagina positively: Did you know that your vagina is beautiful? It’s okay if you are struggling to feel that way. We are inundated with messages that tell us the exact opposite—messages that tell us to hide our vaginas or feel ashamed of them. It’s crucial to consume art, literature, content, etc., that affirms the beauty of your vagina.

Spend time with your vagina: When was the last time you spent five minutes experiencing your vagina? I don’t just mean in a sexual way. You can spend time looking at your vagina in a mirror. What colors and textures do you notice? What does it remind you of? Can you take a moment to touch your vagina? What types of touch feel pleasant? Run your fingers over your whole vagina and observe, without judgment. This practice may be new to you—it’s okay to feel uncomfortable. Notice the discomfort, acknowledge it, and release it. Remember to breathe the entire time. Heavy exhales calm your body.

Try these activities and embrace your sacred sexuality. If you’re ready to embrace your sacred sexuality this summer, check out my upcoming retreat Let’s Get Free.